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I never thought I’d be a working mom. Never.

Because all I have ever wanted to do is stay home with my children and homeschool them and make their meals and clean up their 800 trillion messes a day.

But then my husband’s photography business turned into “our business”, and then it was “mine”.

And now I’m a Stay-at-Home-Working Mom.

Give, it is the BEST of both worlds in so many ways.  I work 2 weekends a month (I up it to 3 during the crazy busy summer months) and while I’m gone, the children are either with Joel, or my parents, or their favorite Bekah, so I don’t even have to worry about them.

But, you know, everything has it’s pros and cons, and working from home is no exception.

Sometimes you feel guilty you aren’t doing enough for your kids.

Sometimes you feel guilty you aren’t focusing on your business more.

Which leads me to the real reason for this post: blogging. Because I am really something terrible at blogging on my work blog. I basically only blog about half, or sometimes less then half, of the jobs I do because I already blog here and 99% of my followers are on this blog. I feel like blogging my work stuff is too pushy. I have long been against combining the two because, god forbid, anyone think I’m trying to be pushy or self promoting. I hate that and I don’t want anyone to think I blog personally just to increase my business – because that’s kinda weird to me. But, I need to figure out a way to blog, work & personal, and not spend all of my life at the computer! (Remember I still have to sort & edit all my photos, so it turns into a lot of screen time.)

So I thought I’d ask you all here, in hope of some honest opinions on what you think about it?

Is it okay for me to combine my work & personal blogs? Do you read any other blogs where this is done tactfully?  I generally don’t give work/personal blogs a second look because I don’t like them, so I’m still leaning toward not combining them, but then I wonder if I’ll have to give up blogging personal posts here just to get work posts done on the other blog? (I don’t like that either!)

My work posts are just photos, I threw a few in here just for kicks, so they aren’t terrible obnoxious, but then again, maybe they are to some people?

What do you think?

 

  • jess - I think there is absolutely nothing wrong with combining the two blogs! Other readers who are like me will love to see your photography and your personal life blended together. After all, your work life is intertwined with your personal life anyways, right? And I know that you will do it tactfully!ReplyCancel

  • hannah - i would love to see your work here!
    i’m certain you’d balance everything nicely.
    photography talent is probably a huge draw here, so more can’t hurt at all;) gorgeous work, cousin!

    p.s. my blog friend jennifer recently combined her work and personal and i love it! http://www.jenniferblairblog.com/ReplyCancel

  • keri - the best blogs combine personal and buisness. I mean, they really draw you in, make you feel like a real person. Check out Jasmine star’s blog hers is very much the same way.ReplyCancel

  • Lauren Kearney - I agree with the first comment, I’d love to see your work on this blog. Honestly I didn’t realize that you had a work blog…I can’t speak for all the love lock readers but having it all in one place would make it convenient and definitely NOT pushy.ReplyCancel

  • Katrina - You are an amazing photographer I don’t know who wouldn’t want to see your work! :) ReplyCancel

  • Rachael W. - I do read several blogs that are combined, and I love it. Because face it, to a stay at home working Mom that works and/or from home it IS personal in so many ways! Most of the stay at home working Mommies I know have found a way to take something they are talented at AND passionate about and turned it into a business supporting their being an at home Mommy. For many I know their business is as much their “baby” to them as a hot rod is to many men! I think you are an incredibly talented portrait photographer, that I would love to have photograph my family, ya know if there weren’t almost 1400 miles in between us! Besides, I think most of your followers on this blog are a) personal friends, family, or acquaintances, and b) are supportive of your work in photography!! I miss blogging, and when I start blogging again I hope to be able to combine personal blogging with my passion (real food&midwifery/doula) which I also hope to be able to in the future turn into a means of income and become a stay at home, traveling, working Mommy too! Keep up the awesomeness! :) ReplyCancel

  • Theresa - Although I like the “idea” of combining the 2, in reality I must say that if I were looking for a photographer and saw a bunch of personal blog stuff, I would probably look elsewhere. I would suggest keeping the 2 separate. If you want to show your work on your personal blog though, do it. Always nie to get encouragement from friends & family about what you’re doing.ReplyCancel

  • Linnea taylor - First of all, this is YOUR blog so you can write/post about whatever the heck you want! And especially because your work is also your craft&talent it’s completely normal to post about it.

    I also like how you say “Stay-at-home-working-mom”. I am going to start using that! I think it’s the best AND worst of both worlds!! I am working, and usually work in the wee hours before the break of dawn, and then come home and still spend the day with my little cherub, meals, and putting the little darling to bed. But boy do I feel like I burn the candle at both ends.ReplyCancel

  • Alyssa Corley - I think you should do what you need to do…not what you think others would want or not want you to do. If you need a break from the computer and you need to “kill two birds with one stone” then go ahead. I think you can do it tactfully…your personal blog already has lovely photos :) ReplyCancel

  • Laura - Be yourself and be you. Given that your work is in a creative field, this allows you to be creative in expressing yourself. So do what comes naturally and artistically for you. From a customer point of view, photography is personal, and if I were having my wedding or a special event photographed, I think it would only add to my decision to use you as a photographer to know more about you. As long as you keep your blog true and artistic and not commercial or fake, whether you are talking about work or personal, it will be interesting and authentic-like who you are!ReplyCancel

  • melissa - I always want to go and see your work blog, but I always forget or am too busy. I would love to see more of your work photos added in. I don’t know how that would work from your business point of view…but I love seeing your camera angles and ideas! :-) ReplyCancel

  • Stacie - Perhaps categorize in the best way possible and then you will much better about the combo factor! I love your personal/family blog posts as I can get to know you better and just see how God is using you and your skills. Maybe use a bold title to distinguish a work post or have a fun category title. The posts that are personal are pretty obvious. I have no problem seeing both together. I have seen blogs done separate but for your own sanity and your own eyeballs, I say do what works for you. And pray on it – so that God can show you that peace and you’ll know how to best serve your clients! : )ReplyCancel

  • Stacie - I just looked at your work blog (again) and there is a great quality to keeping it separate from your personal blog, actually! Hmm. so I say put into your schedule the best you can, set aside time to work blog! Love it!ReplyCancel

  • Ele - If you care about what branding is you shouldn’t combine it. If you don’t care, you should be yourself. I believe that through art you are a little personal in a way because your art is an expression of yourself. But again… Is up to you. You should do what you can handle. People like the personal touch of a business because they feel part of it too, they feel engage in your work and thats good. Tough decision though. I wouldn’t do it if i was you just because I don’t like combining my personal life with my work life. I like to have a private life.ReplyCancel

  • The Photography Files: May 2012 » House of Lovelock - [...] after all the sweet comments and thoughts from you all. I definitely decided to keep my business and personal blogs separate for [...]ReplyCancel

Since I’m behind a weekend, I’m smashing the past two weekends into one post. Two for one, right?

This will work especially well since I am the worst at picture taking lately and have less then acceptable photography from all of my current life events.

A few weeks back I went to the West Coast Health Expo, which is by far, the best expo I have ever been to!!  First of all, it was crazy huge. So huge that there were TONS of companies surrounding the entire outside of the Convention Center. By the time I left, I was so weighed down with products that I thought I might collapse.

And I met Bob. Who is so stinkin’ adorable!

I told him that we eat his products ALL THE TIME, and that I’m going to read his book to my kids. He said, “They will be board out of their minds!” And I said, “No way, we’ll read it while we eat your oatmeal!” Haha, he was great.

And, you know I look half awake cause I was half away because I slept about 4 hours the night before with my new insomniac state of life that I’m in.  That and walking over 6 miles while carrying 40 pounds of products made for a crazy hurting body and one of the best nights of sleep EVER.

And I met this guy too, but he doesn’t talk much, and my kids don’t even like Pirates Booty. However, they were entertained with that gigantic face so it was worth it!

Then, yesterday – after another night of 4 hours of sleep, then sunday school, then a 2 hour nap – my friend Melissa had a Benefit Cosmetics House party. Party? Yes, good. Food? Yes, really good!  Free Benefit make?!!!? Oh YESSSSS!

I didn’t get any group pictures of the party, like I said, I’ve been super bad about taking pictures lately!

One of the other best parts of yesterday?  It was a down pour for most of the day/night. You can all laugh at my excitement, but in Southern california we have nearly perfect” weather all year long which means very few blustery days. I was thrilled!  Joel and I opened our bedroom window to get the most of the rainy sounds and watched the first half of Quigley Down Under (To be continued tonight because we got too tired. Getting up in years, ya know?)

My husband has never seen this movie?! I feel like that isn’t possible, but it’s true. Growing up in Mexico he missed a lot of “normal” American stuff so we joke that I’m culturing him. In his own culture, but whatever. It’s funny to us. It’s also funny that he speaks spanish with a mexican accent and I, the mexican, can’t speak any spanish.

We’re basically one really cool person.

Except we’re not one person, so it’s just slightly less cool.

Miscellany Monday @ lowercase letters

  • hannah singer - you are too cool!
    and i’m glad you can educate joel on important bits of culture:)

    love you!! hugs to all. also, skype? maybe?ReplyCancel

  • hannah - p.s. love that you linked up to lowercase letters for MM. (another fave blog!)ReplyCancel

  • rachael - Be. Still. My. Heart!!! I have a crazy mad cruch on the young Tom Selleck. So much in fact that at 5 I declared my undying love and told everyone I would marry him when I grew up. Hello Magnum P.I Tom! :) I did marry tall, dark, and handsome though, so this gal is thoroughly content! Haha

    That Health Expo looks like it was fun! I doubt we have such awesomeness at the Tulsa Expo Center. Unless fried foods is a food group, and boxed potatoes are deemed…. a food? And if all things fried all of a sudden become the health craze! :) ReplyCancel

  • Alyssa Corley - HIm growing up in Mexico is no excuse…we had it on VHS…he could have borrowed it from us. :) And I think it’s so hilarious that one day you are at a health food expo with all the organic goodness, and then next day getting all glamor and eating chocolate and crackers! So jealous you got to ACTUALLY meet BOB!!!!
    I have that movie now on DVD…I love Tom too.ReplyCancel

  • Cassie - I looooove reading your blogs! They are short, sweet, entertaining, and I love all of the pics! I’m sooo not a reader. I totally wish I were, but I just can never get into it. Pathetic? Yes. Am I even human? I question that most days. But all that to say- I can’t ever read any other blogs ’cause they are so long and I either get pulled away by my kids, or get too bored to finish the read. But yours are perfect! Keep it up!

    CassReplyCancel

  • Melissa - So I haven’t commented in while, but I SO look foward to seeing in my inbox that you have a new page up! Hmmm,…I like the references to people that I can say, “hey, I know that person!” and the occasional pics of them and just plain American culture! Miss it. And as lame as this is, you totally just jumped up a few notches because I LOVE Quigley Down Under…watched it all the time w/ my bro and haven’t seen it in ages! There, of course, are many other things which I like a lot, but I’m already feeling guilty enough about the amount of clothes I have piled on the floor, so I shall have to say more later…keep it up! You have so much energy, I don’t know you do it! Love ya!ReplyCancel

  • Jordyn - So jealous you met Bob! that’s just way too cool.ReplyCancel

I have to say that I am absolutely positively terrible about reading blogs. I never bookmark them, so I forget to read, or forget the blog altogether. (Not my real life friends of course, I love to read my friends blog, I’m talking my blog-creeping-alter-ego, the fly-on-the-wall never comment on a single blog post person deep inside me who stalks loves cute babies.)

Anyway. Here are a few that have stuck with me and I actually remember ’cause I love the white backgrounds babies, aesthetics, and a knack for keep their blogs cheery & sweet. I check them when I remember and always find something cute!  In random order:

Kelli Murray

She is a friend of my friend Jess (One of my favorite people EVER!) and Jess sent me her link to show me her baby’s room because it is all my favorite colors. I of course love her blog, and good grief, isn’t her baby just precious!?

Bleubird Vintage

I think I found this when I was googling the name “Gemma”. I love that she has 3 kids, because I don’t find many bloggers with 3 kids who are entertaining.

The Rockstar Diaries

Thanks to my friend Ashley, I was reminded about this blog just this past week! This cute girl has one adorable baby, and another on the way. Are kids trendy now? I think so. I think so.

Main reason I love all of these blogs? They are inspiring because they don’t clutter up their posts with anything but just nice-ness. Nice pictures, nice words, nice everything. Everything I like in a blog!

Anyone have any suggestions for new blogs for me? White backgrounds are a must. Just kidding. But seriously, I’d like to get into a groove of blog reading so let me know if you have any suggestions!

(P.S. A special thanks to all of you recent new lurkers who are reading. I know you still probably won’t comment, because I don’t usually comment on blogs I follow, but just know that I’m super glad you stopped by!)