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Scenes From Our Easter

So far only my sister and I have kids, that means both my brothers still have plenty of time to add to this tribe. Although, we aren’t doing too bad all things considered…

My mom is going to hate that picture because I caught her mid-laugh, but everyone is smiling. There’s just that trio of odd faces between mom, Cruz & Dean that kinda throw it. (Also note my dad was drugged, doesn’t he look great?!)

Happily searching, that is until Uncle Zac started filling the eggs with dirt and shouting, “I found one more.” Then the kids were crying. That was super fun.

He’s the cutest-est. And so brown. Cruz is so happy that he now has Grandpa, Mommy, Quin and Dean to be brown with. (No joke, the kids sort out who is brown and who is white. They argue over Grandpa, “Is he brown or is he RED?”)

Quin. It wasn’t worth it guys. You can’t fight with a two year old over pictures, Jude tried though.

I can’t stop staring at this one of Dean. He knows so much.

Easter hairs.

Grandma is so smart, just fruit snacks and money in the eggs this year. Solves the allergy problems and the kids are obviously not given enough money. All that over a quarter, haha!

Even this guy couldn’t contain himself with all the joy going round.

Nana & Rara, our faves.

And just one more of my favorite little guy since he’s so new. He’s already/only one month old, but look at those cheeks and arm rolls. The best!

Katie Campos - That’s funny, we have the white/brown segregation in our family too. Daddy and Titus are brown Mommy and Elias are white. Baby #3 will break the tie one way or the other. I love the picture of your parents w/all the grandkids. We did this with my grandparents every year for Christmas, there were 12 of us cousins. So fun!

Candace Wingo - Such great pictures. Such a great one too of Ron and Nancy.

Ashley W. - Haha, that’s great. We still have ethnicity confusion here, Cruz truly believed he was black for awhile. It was awesome and hysterical all at the same time.

Good Friday!

I wish I could share everything with you all, I think if I did people would be moved in a profound way for this darling girl and her baby. However, I feel that for privacy sake, it’s not a good idea.

When we first got all the information about this situation it seemed much more grim then what the actually story ended at. We didn’t realize the level of support this girl had, or the level of doubts she had about adoption until the day before she went into labor. (Note that I was not talking directly to the mom at this point, only to the social worker, so it’s always a little more confusing in any case.) We are super open with our heart for adoption, and we want to help in any way we can, but if a girl feels she can parent (despite a crisis pregnancy), her family and friends want to support her, and they have the resources to do so, then it probably isn’t a situation that needs us. That’s basically this situation in a nutshell.

The positive is, with both Joel and I, we know we were respectful of this momma, we truly wanted to support her and her baby no matter what she chose, and there is nothing to regret in the sense that we are just us, doing what we love – supporting adoption because we believe in it. We only wish we could have had more information earlier so we could have known our place better. The worst feeling I’ve had in this is that I didn’t really know what this girl wanted, but because of that, I assumed that she needed our “help”. “Help” essentially being that we would “take” the baby she wanted to parent – possibly the most awkward feeling ever!

Once I learned that this mom had both the ability and the want to parent, my whole mom-side turned off toward the specific situation. The only real unfortunate part is that this all coincides with us running out of time on our home study and still never having had a viable adoption situation. We don’t qualify for most types of adoption. We have biological and adopted children. We’ve never experienced infertility (or even a miscarriage). We are young and not rich. We have full lives. Most birthparents want everything the opposite of us. It’s hard to think that we aren’t good enough for adoption when there have been few things as important to us in the past 10 years.

On the flip side, my dad had another surgery yesterday that we hope will give him some real relief, we get to see all our family on Sunday (our new nephew Dean is going to be subjected to both Joel and I aggressively fighting over him for the entire Easter holiday), and we stinking love the kids we have. If this is all life offers us, how dare we complain. As my mom says, “No one died, so that’s good.” (And how much does that say about our last year as a family?!)

Ironically, today is the day that we actually celebrate death – Good Friday. The day Someone did die making all this adoption stuff more then just a legal process and giving it a heavenly meaning for believers. Doesn’t that seem funny that I’m here today blogging this? I kinda can’t get over it. Much like I can’t get over sharing this song every Good Friday.

Come close listen to the story, about a love more faithful than the morning

The Father gave his only Son just to save us

The earth was shaking in the dark
All creation felt the Fathers broken heart
tears were filling heaven’s eyes
The day that true love died, the day that true love died
When blood and water hit the ground
Walls we couldn’t move came crashing down
We were free and made alive
The day that true love died, The day that true love died

Search your heart you know you can’t deny it
Come on, lose your life just so you can find it
The Father gave his only son just to save us

The earth was shaking in the dark
All creation felt the Fathers broken heart
tears were filling heaven’s eyes
The day that true love died, the day that true love died
When blood and water hit the ground
Walls we couldn’t move came crashing down
We were free and made alive
The day that true love died, The day that true love died

Now, Jesus is alive

Jesus is alive
Oh, He is alive
He rose again

When blood and water hit the ground
Walls we couldn’t move came crashing down
We were free and made alive
The day that true love died, The day that true love died



Happy Resurrection! 

Laura Wingo Tyler - Beautiful post, Ashley!

Candace Wingo - Thanks for sharing this with us all.

Ryan Watson - Such a beautiful post!

It’s A…

(*Updated to add: Both rompers on the ends are Gap, as are both the sweaters. The grey dress on the left is Peek Kids, Mustard yellow dress is American Apparel, and the outfit in the middle is Mabo.)

Unfortunately/Fortunately I didn’t have anything in tiny little girl size, so you know what we had to do? Shop. The girls are in heaven! How are baby things getting so much cuter by the day? When Jude was a baby, things were not this cute!

So, along with that, we’ve just been cleaning the house and trying to be ready for whenever baby decides to arrive.


Now, for those who asked me questions/those who want to hear all the details…

We really truly considered not telling anyone about anything adoption wise until after the baby was here, but the more we realized we were bad at keeping secrets, the more we also realized that secrets aren’t going to make our friends want to adopt. (Hint, hint, anyone?!) So, while we are fully aware of the “risks” (if you call them that) of sharing it all with you, we also really hope that people will be able to learn from this process with us and be supportive of us no matter the outcome… and if you all adopted too, we’d be overjoyed!

That being said, here’s how we explained this whole situation to the kids, “There is a mommy who is considering adoption and we are going to do everything we can to help her while she makes her decision.” They understand that this means they go to Grandma & Grandpa’s while Daddy & Mommy go out to dinner with her, and that we are getting ready to bring the baby home, and that she has two options: A. She takes her baby home and parents her. OR B. She asks us to adopt her baby and then we get to be the baby’s family too.

To us, the “risk” is that we help this girl, but don’t necessarily adopt this specific child – not a bad thing, right?! Our prayer is that while this mom moves forward in her adoption plan, which she is, that she would have peace that it is the right decision for her and her baby. We will hear more about her hospital plan after the weekend, or maybe she’ll have the baby tomorrow? We are placing bets on that possibility it since our social worker is out of town and unavailable tomorrow only – babies love to make dramatic entrances.

And do you know what showed up on my doorstep last night? A box from Zara with this in it…

Julia, you are the best ever, and I’m guessing you had an accomplice?! Thank you, thank you!

Christina - Ashley, you and your family are amazing.
A M A Z I N G !

Ken Munson - Oh, my! Oh, my! Oh, my! New babies everywhere! It’s wonderful! Congratulations!

Julia Myers - Ahhhhhh! SO excited for you guys! This makes me so excited for our future adoption :) Praying God’s will is done and a healthy girl is brought into this world as peacefully as possible and into the arms that God has ordained for her. <3

Nancy C Anderson - What an adventure! We can’t wait to meet her.

Katie Campos - I got a little wrapped up in this and burned my dinner I’ll have you know. I’m so happy for you guys. Praying for the Lord’s perfect will with timing and the birthmom’s peace about her decision. That crochet dress is ADORABLE!

Christina Beck - Love this!

Sherry Hemphill - God Love YOU , You guys are awesome

Kelly Agosta Moredock - So excited for you! Can’t wait to see her picture!

I don’t even know what to say…

We are matched and the baby is due in ONE WEEK!

There are a million other things I want to tell you all and I’m sure there will be lots of questions, which we will be happy to answer (You know how to comment!) I wanted to call everyone and explain personally before making a blog announcement, but with so little time it just couldn’t happen – so forgive us for the rush, but we really are so thankful for everyone who has been praying for our adoption and please pray for this mom as she moves forward in her adoption plan. As exstatic as we are, adoption always has a flip side. xxoo

(Can you imagine one more precious little face in with these?!)

Chanel - That is so exciting!! Congratulations! I’ll be praying for you guys and the new baby and the mommy :)

Kristine - Congratulations, Ashley! That is such exciting news! So happy for your family!

Rachael W. - How exciting! Congratulations Wingo family!!!! And how amazing and perfectly timed is this baby’s arrival with the recent birth of your Sister’s baby boy!!!! God is amazing! Can’t wait to see pictures of your newest blessing!

Sylvia Osorno - Woohoo!!! So happy for you!

Nici Slocum - Congratulations!!!! What a blessing!!! That sweet baby is going to be so loved!!! Good thing the kids were brainstorming names ;) Can’t wait for all the beautiful baby pics of little Phoenix Pete… Or Knight War, maybe?? Will be keeping you all in prayer as you prepare & welcome home baby.

Katie Campos - Wooohooo! Congratulations.

Lili Munson - Congratulations sweetheart! Welcome to the mommy of 5 club! Let us know when your baby arrives.

April Domancich - So excited for you guys. We will keep the whole process in prayer. We will also pray for the birth mom and the little one as he/she is born

Johanna - Awesome!!!!!!!! Congrats! Praise God!

Cassie L - What!?!! No way! So awesome!!! SO excited for you guys!

Holly Tremblay - Wow! Seriously so thrilled for you all. Can’t wait to hear more details!

Kelly Meagher - So exciting! Congratulations!

Candy Wingo - We are very happy and we are praying.

Faith Shelton - That is so exciting! I can’t wait to see pictures and find out what name you have picked out. Congratulations! Babies are so much fun.

A Thrilling Weekend

I get to spend the weekend at the fabulous Natural Products Expo West!!! EKKKK! I have to say it’s one of the best weekends of my year. Since I won’t be posting over the weekend, between the convention and meeting some new brides, I’m to make extra special sure to instagram (@houseoflovelock) so you can keep up and feel like you’re there too! Until the weekend, here’s some of this past weeks insta pictures.